It’s like they’ve died but keep coming back to life.” I ask Jean if she thinks women can be benchers, and she pauses briefly before responding.
“I think women do play games with men in their lives who have been around for a while, just waiting in the wings,” she says.
“Maybe they’ll text them to get a quick ego stroke.
But when someone disappears and then continues to text you, you don’t even get that.No, he corrects me, there is always someone doing the benching and someone being benched. “In a romantic scenario, you’re not going to go along with this unless you want to actually date the bencher. ’ But that’s literally sales 101: Ask questions so the buyer thinks you think they’re interesting.” Some might call it gaslighting, but benchers suffering from nice-guy syndrome may not even be trying to exploit the situation.