This became clear when a few weeks into the relationship, she wanted to step it up to the next level -- commitment -- and I backed off.
I was anxious in part because a few weeks just aren't enough for me to feel trusting.
But trying to go slow in a dating world that operates at supersonic speed is difficult, because it's really easy to get caught up in the partnering race.
Sure, she had pushed for more intimacy, but I didn't have to acquiesce.
I shared my feelings with her about something she'd done that had genuinely hurt my feelings.