Divorces cost money, can cause stress when there are items, homes, and children involved. He is likely going through his own personal hell, right now, and he will need all the support he can get. I am really full of anxiety today and trying to hold it together. He now says he was caught up in the safety, lust and nuturing of our early relationship and that he does not love me and should not have said it. I am not interested in any other men and I really did love him, although I realize now that he could not have felt the same and changed his mind only 30 days later.Not just that, but you have to realize that a bond that some people hold in such a high regard was broken. His head and heart are in the middle of a knock down drag out fight and until that ends, he won't be able to move forward properly. I am divorced, 38 and this is the only man I have felt this comfortable with and loved openly. I believe I was his rebound girl after his marriage broke up. It is hard to forget all the things that were said and he clearly does not have the same emotional investment in this that I do. It seems that he is very confused about many things regarding our relationship.I have liked him for years and supported him emotionally during this difficult time.We had several great months together and he said he loved me and was making long term plans with me. And yes, this is going to be a transition time for him and that is probably a good thing for you.Since I told him I had to break up I have contacted him like the stupid fool that I am, he has replied nicely, but then I texted back that I miss him and I didnt get a reply. I thought I was the one who could get him through it and that once he was done we would live happily ever after NOT!!I guess he isnt trying to lead me on....anymore that is. that should tell you something especially how he is acting towards you now. For all you ladies out there even thinking of getting involved w/ a married man going through a divorce... Unhappiness is all that resulted from the relationship.Yeah, unfortunately..you let a guy be friends with you after, he will recreate the relationship and dictate new terms. Men know we want relationships and they have learned to carrot dangle and they get what they want and we get to sit there and jump hoops. It lasted about 15 month and just this passed weekend we had the "talk" initiated by me.The first 6 - 8 months were great, he was texting me constantly and talking almost every day.
Then the last few times we met up he didn't even bother with the trying to sweeten me up before hand, its like he couldn't be bothered anymore, i wasnt even worth that.It definitely is comforting to know that soo many others out there have experienced this, I thought I was the only one foolish enough to have been sucked in to his tornado. Us woman cling on to the fantasy that we are going to end up happily ever after together and really they just want to fill the sexual void until they are free to go out there and openly date other woman.